I am African American woman, dating Igbo man

by Neesha
(Baltimore MD)

He hasn't introduced me to his family after 2 yrs dating. We were in nursing school together. I have finished school he is still attending. He is 32 yrs old, I am 41. I have 3 children from previous marriage. He has met my family, mother children, everyone that means something to me.

I have only met his family in his church. They don't know who I am, they think we are just friends. This saddens me at times. He told me that everything must be done in an orderly fashion and that it is not time yet to meet his family even though he met mine.

He said that was my decision to do that and that he is not the same. I have been learning how to make Nigerian meals and desserts. I am doing everything I can think of to let him know I love him and will always be there. I don't know if he really wants to be with me.

I am confused. I wonder if he is embarrassed by me?? I am older and have children, but own a home and just graduated from Nursing School. I love him very much. I wonder if he does at times. Please help..

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African American, Married to Nigeria
by: Watch Man

The only known problem with African men especially men from Nigeria is that they are often intimidated by a more successful female partner. Nigeria men are scared of walking down the aisle with a more successful women because we think they wouldn't accord us the necessary 'rights and respects' if they are not "eating from our palm" (sort of)

So I think he would come much around if he graduate and finds a decent job, then he would look like the man in charge when he introduces you to his people.

In Nigeria, it is very condescending to eat from the palm of a woman (being sponsored or sort of) and showing it off even when you love her doesn't pass you off as a real man

That is just my two cents, you may wanna hear from other people before you come to a conclusion

in response to African American woman, dating Igbo man
by: Neesha

Hello, and thank you. This helps alot. However, he does have a BS already, but is not using it because he found another desire which is nursing. He is working, actually very hard working at two jobs. Thank you, this has really helped me alot. It's difficult understanding his thoughts at times because I am used to dealing with American men. Thank you..

incredible
by: Anonymous

wooooooow

perfect
by: jeeze

Interesting story,
how did that really happened , well love might have made them loved each other, but is the love pure,
because there are previous stories about a man who married a white woman but was killed after five month of marriage.
so good luck

great news
by: cryme

This is great,it is one of the best news ever.
Nigerians are working
and that gives me joy and it really strengthen me to wish to do more than this, I thought most Nigerians abroad go through hell to find a decent job, well maybe I should leave that to another thread

The truth is, am dating a white girl aged 26 and our relationship is working fine and we had hope to get married soon

Response, I am a African American woman, dating Igbo man
by: Neesha

Thanks for the responses, the good and the bad ones. I know he loves me, he makes that clear in the way he treats my children and I. I am going to wait and be patient. He knew when he approached me that I was 9 years older and he didn't go running....and by the way, if we were to get married, both of us would be taking care of the expense. He works two jobs....that's to the person who mentioned I would pay for it.

bravo to the brave heart
by: ENEMIES

since that is your choice and his choice you got nothing to fear,
but the other fact is that,he hasnt taken you to see his parents, hmmm that signals troubles but dont lack faith, just lock up tight and do your best neesha

posting from canada
by: CM PUNK

holy shit.
omg this is weird, it is dead drop nonsense.but it is your choice and you live your life any how you want it. Love is like a tree planted by the rivers of waters. so i don't blame both of you, my only concern is why a man would want to stick with an older lady. but what can I say, it happens this days!

in response
by: Neesha

In my defense, I would also like to add that I am in great shape and I don't look 41, I have been told I look in my late 20's early 30's many times before. I am active and stay busy. So it's not like he is dating a hum drum overweight wrinkled up old lady!!...:) Your right, I can have any one, he can have any one, but I want him.

I am African American woman, dating Igbo man
by: Watch Man

For crying out loud, we are no longer in the eighteenth century. The world is changing, likewise culture, believe, patterns, people and a whole lot. I don't think it is right or decent to categories people by their age or past.

Different people are searching for partners with different kind of attitude and mojo, I don't mind sticking up with a pretty lady that is 15 years older if she is as matured as I want and would deliver to me the dividends of marriage.

My happiness comes first and most men have come to realize that too!

Personally, I dislike armature girls.

So allow every Man to make their own choices

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in response to David
by: Neesha

Thank you! I will check the link out. I do my best in making dishes. Jollof rice, nigerian cake, chicken stew, and suya. I am about to attempt Fufu...

thank you Watch man
by: Neesha

I appreciate your comments! You speak the truth...

good news
by: truth

this is a good news,
i wish am the nigeria guy who have the priviledge to have someone like you,
neesha just hold on to your love even though he hasnt introduce you to his parents,just have the faith that fate will bring you guys together.
take care dear

love is the key of life
by: busta rhymes

hi neesha, am happy you choose to love a nigeria,and it will be a great favour to every nigeria guy who has the opportunity to have you,
even though you are older than him,love is the only fruit of life.
i wish you good luck in every step you take.

african america woman dating igbo man
by: pastor

jesus christ who dwells above heaven and make the earth his foot stool will make any body that will stop you from marrying him your foot stool.
this is a great news,i love to hear news fill with wonders of the almighty GOD.
neesha please be patient.

Marrying igbo man
by: Justices

Good lord this is the greatest news i have ever heard in my life, but the truth is try to make him love you more than ever,
igbo men are some times harsh but with the way i viewed your own situation,i realized that the love is flowing in your veins, it is not an easy task for a white woman to love an african man especially an igbo man,
but since you both loved each other according to the way god want it, all i will say is good luck to you dear
am really happy to read this post.

in response
by: Neesha

Hello,
to comment by "Justices", I am actually black not white. Thank you for the wonderful comment. Any clues on how to make him love me MORE as you stated??
to comment by "Pastor", I hope I can remain patient. That is exactly what he asked me to do, be patient...
to comment by "Busta Rhymes", thank you, very sweet of you!
to comment by "Truth", thank you to you also, he is very sweet. I love him much. I can't wait to meet his family on another level than just his friend from school.

I will continue to wait. We exercise together, laugh together and have had sad moments together. An Igbo man is a very proud man with a very strong EGO...I don't mind his ego, it's attractive. I had to let go of my ego because I was a single mom working taking care of my home. the both of us can not have an EGO...that won't work...so he wins..he gets to keep his. Mine had to go....it wasn't easy.

reply
by: justice

the only way to make an igbo man love you is to capture his heart, make sure you give him every thing he demands for, my joy is to see an happy family,
neesha try all your posible best to have him by your side, igbo men are wonderful to be with.
win him

response to Justice
by: Neesha

Thank you!! I will keep trying my best. He is worth it. I guess I have to get a little creative. He doesn't ask for much...so giving him what his heart desires shouldn't be hard.

update to my situation
by: Neesha

I was invited to a picnic where he played soccer. His friends were there and it was great! There were a few things I didn't like..but overall it was great...The food and music was wonderful. I also recently went shopping and made Yam porridge, he like it alot! I am pretty proud of myself...Next I am trying Ogbono soup...hope that turns out well.

He doesn't have the same concept of quality time as I do...when He has something to do, that comes first...no matter what...sometimes days go by before I see him. Sometimes a day or two without actually talking to him on the phone..sometimes it's just a text. I am trying to understand that he is doing alot and trying to accomplish alot.

I love him. I am trying to understand him. he is difficult to understand at times. He told me I need to try to understand him and stop trying to figure him out.

He loves me I know...that is only thing that is keeping me here...and ofcourse, I love him.

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by: Peace Anegbu

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Igbo man
by: Giselle

Hi Neesha,

I am dating an Igbo guy also. I am six years older than him. I think it's good that he is not rushing to marry you since it shows that he is not just using you for citizenship reasons. Unlike my Igbo guy. I have happen to come across a youtube video that outlined how you can know if a Nigerian man is serious. I hope it all works out. Love is main thrust of life. I am still in search of finding my King. Just curious as to why he is gone for 2 days at a time?

response to Giselle
by: Neesha

Hi, thanks for your comments! He is busy with work, errands for family, church mainly, then i fit in. Its hard at times but I'm getting used to it. He is trying to get his life and career straight now. I'm being patient.

response to Giselle
by: Neesha

Oh, also, congratulations! Good for you, igbo men are wonderful men. Mine is a citizen since 19 yrs old. And where is this you tube video?? also, I really think he can't introduce me yet until he has proven himself to be a man

HE IS YOURS
by: Nelly-Felix

You are just lucky to have an Igbo man. They are very industrious, determined and make the best husbands in Africa.

Over 70% of them are faithful and the few that flirt around never allow their wives to know.
They value their wives very greatly and that probably explains why he is being VERY PATIENT & CAREFUL!

He LOVES you but remember to take care of his stomach and make him totally beleive that he is in-charge.

just give him a genuine love.

in response to Nelly-Felix
by: Neesha

Hello, thank you for your comments. I am trying to be patient. We have had our ups and downs. He is still working a lot, not much time to see him. I know he loves me. I have increased my Nigerian meal adventures! I have added Egusi soup and Ogbono soup, both turned out wonderful!
I give him the respect of being the man in our relationship. I am working as a R.N. he is completing his now. I am just seeing this biological clock click by. I will be 42 this year.. Thanks again for your comments.

Nigerian men
by: Anonymous

Another reason why he is hesitant for you to meet his family is because you have children. Most Nigerian men won't bring a women home that has children because of what his mother would say. But my dear just keep it in prayer.

FROM UK
by: Girl

ALL I KNOW IS THAT THIS PEOPLE ARE THE BEST PEOPLE TO BE WITH,BUT I ALSO KNOW THAT MOST DO NOT WANT TO FALL IN DEEP LOVE WITH WOMEN WHO HAVE CHILDREN BEFORE KNOWING THEM.STILL LOVE HIM YOU WILL NEVER LOOSE BY BEEN WITH THEM .I LOVE THEM MYSELF

I am African American woman dating an Igbo man
by: Anonymous

My dear, been in the same situation. The fact that I had 3 kids stood in the way. His family would not accept him marrying a woman who already has kids. He won't say it but that's the fact. The Igbo man will not go against his family's decision. Let him go, you'll find that right one for you. The earlier the better. I spent over 5 years waiting.

African American Women dating African Man
by: Oshodin05

I've dated a few African men before I married one. Dating was ok but I gave my heart to one and he broke it. I gave it another try then married a Nigerian who left me moved away and is living his life with a whole new family. Sad part he won't divorce me after I have asked for two years now. Some Nigerians do want to do right but BEWARE of the ones who fashion themselves after the American playa.

response to my post
by: Neesha

this is for GIRL in UK:He really doesn't care that I have children, he even wants me to bring him to his church with me but I have a home church. His parents attend his church, so they would know I have children and I talk about them all the time to his church family members.
this is for anonymous: I am sorry that it didn't work for you because you had children and I'm sorry you waited 5 yrs...I have waited 3 so far. I think I'm done
this is for Oshodin05: I'm sorry that you met such a deceitful man. Igbo or American...not good! I hope your heart is healing. I hope you can let your heart open to someone again.
Thank you guys for responding!!

Users
by: Terryce

I beg of please don't fall for that all lies Igbo men are users I know I was in same boat had 3 kids Married this man I got my tubes untied for him had a child an he got his citizenship an left me if you have to be a secret something not right if you can't figure out if he loves you something's not right get out of that relationship love your self focus on you an your kids feel good about you help yourself an your kids he's going to hurt you he's using you he don't love you this is not love they on want citizenship please listen to me .

Just know the culture before you settle in
by: Tawny

I was married to a Nigerian from Abujah (not sure I spelled that correctly) and after over ten years of marriage, I discovered he had been having affairs throughout our marriage. When I discovered this information, he told me, "I'm not gonna let the wind blow up my skirt." That's the first time I'd heard that phrase, but anyway, he became insensitive and neglectful to the extent that it lead to our divorce. I am Black American and I say Black American because I identify with where my parents and I were born and we were born here in America. I say Black because that is the group that my family has come to identify with. My culture doesn't support multiple lovers or children by different females at least not legally. All I'm saying is study the culture, know what the expectations are before things become too serious to back out and hopefully you won't have to. Be prepared that even though it may seem he prefers a monogamous relationship, he may later change his mind. Talk about it and look out for sudden changes in his patter of behavior.

response to Terryce and Tawny
by: Neesha

Terryce: I'm very sorry he hurt you so badly. For any man to do is horrible...not all Igbo's do that. I've seen my share of honest Igbo men. We have to be careful and patient when these men come our way to entice us to date them or be there lady.
Tawny: I've studied the culture pretty well I think. They can be stubborn. My guy has his citizenship so not an issue for us. Its the time he spends with me that drives me crazy. And when his business, errands, favors, etc are done...then he comes to me. He has even been late for birthday dinner dates celebrations...both his and mine. I REALLY THINK I'M DONE WITH HIM...

RUNNN!!
by: Anonymous

Just RUNNN! Been there done that!!

be careful and watchful
by: Anonymous

Runn get out!!! I married man from same country, im american black female 30 yrs old. He met me when i was 21 in college he was 27. We dated, he confessed his love, claimed be christian had my whole family liking him. Then we got married the ugly truth surfaced. I got pregnant first time he was ok, second time he begged me abort it, told me he never truly loved me after 3 yr marriage mark he filed divorce on me while i was carrying his second child. Applied for green card then brought his WIFE from back home who i knew NOTHING about it. Now he and his wife live together in our once marital home, while im left struggling with two kids he doesn't see. We dated for year and half before marriage. I met his family, some flew here some live in the usa and not one revealed to me he had a wife. I had to see their past wedding photos on his Facebook after our divorce and all his family were there at their wedfing. I got used,abused and heartbroken. BE CAREFUL DEAR!

African America woman dating igbo man
by: Anan D

To the last poster, what you described was a high level of relationship fraud, I am really sorry that you have to go through all of that.

You had a very bad experience with a desperate Nigerian man, my guess is that he was feeding on you while the relationship lasted, I am really sorry.

Did he give any reason for the break up? You said he was 27 when you met him, here in Nigeria it is hard to find a man that is married at 27.

Maybe, you were simply engrossed in love that you forgot to notice when something else was going on. It is not your fault dear.

Despite your experience, you need to know that there are still descent Nigerian men out there, the problem with most of them is adapting to the way and style of the western world. We love our women because they are very obedient and SUBMISSIVE.

no love here
by: Anonymous

run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!they love their own people...

Check people you date
by: Trish

I am an american woman. I experienced the constant abuse and cheating but it wasn't with a nigerian. It was with a guy from east africa. He gave me an incurable disease. It's NOT hiv or aids. At the time I was in complete shock. I went through withdrawal, depression, and (I told my counselor this, my own family/friends do not know) but... I tried to overdose. This was six years ago. I am at a much better place in life, but I have to live with the HSV disease for the rest of my life. I'm only 28. Ladies not all are alike. Just get to know the guy very well and learn the culture. Get to know any guy very well doesn't matter where he comes from. I have a cousin who was given the HIV virus from a guy she was dating and he is from the united states, both African Americans in their early thirties. He was cheating. Be careful with anyone now days this goes to both men and women, Pray ask God for guidance. I was never promiscuous, wild, or anything. I just ended up with the wrong dude.

Dating an Igbo man
by: Anonymous

I have been married to an Igbo man for 25 years. We dated for 2 yrs. I can tell you that Normally they do not marry women with children. He may like you or even love you but his culture goes deep. You need to read on Nigerian culture. African culture is very strong good or bad. I wish I had read about Nigerian culture before thinking about accepting to date or marring my husband. I believe my husband feels he should have married someone he had more in common. Although things could have been just as hard because Nigerian women are changing. My heart goes out to you because by now his family should know who you are. The signs are not good. Move on, time waits for no one.

Love Honestly
by: Vira M

Hello, I am a black american middle age woman and I have been in love with a Nigerian man for over 2 years and a half now. He has been the center of my life and is surely my hero. He makes my life complete and I believe he is my destiny. In the beginning of our relationship, he didn't know whether to trust me and I him, but we chanced our hearts to eachother and I still wait for the day and hour we are together forever. I have heard so many negative things about you guys and I just wanna say, no matter what, if you are in love with someone in another country or not, just love honestly and watch your love grow tremendously. You will never regret doing things together and for eachother the right way. If it isn't TRUE LOVE, then it will not last. Don't make it hard for someone else to accomplish true love because of your wrong actions. Experience it for yourself and help it spread abroad like me and my TRUE NIGERIAN LOVE. I hope and wish to soon visit your country to show who I am that could help change negative lives into positive lives. I love people and has loved Africa from a child. Take heed to my saying and Love Honestly. We all deserve an everlasting true love. SMILE

To Vira the previous commenter
by: Anonymous

Come back and tell us your story AFTER your Nigerian man marries you and obtains citizenship. You have wool over your eyes and can't see the forest from the trees. I guarantee you your attitude will change and you will live to regret it. They DO NOT love or like black American women, they do not even like black Americans period. I have been around all people from different countries in Africa, grew up around them and I have heard there conversations and them talk among themselves. The relationships they encounter with Americans, white or black are all for profit, whether it be for a financial gain or citizenship. They target people that are vulnerable, like what they consider unattractive, but will lie and say they are attracted to... For example women that are overweight, ugly, older or young women with little children, broke, with some kind of low self esteem. I have heard African men talk about their own American wives among their friends in private. In their language calling them fat, ugly and lazy sitting around laughing, then go home to these American wives. After sometime the African men divorce the American wives and go get women from their own country and make them legal in the USA. They DO NOT like blacks in America or consider them equal. They associate themselves more with their own or people similar with their culture like the black West Indians/Caribbean people. They also associate more with whites in the USA, but some do not trust whites. But still they would hold a white person as a friend more than they would a black American. I have family from east and west Africa. I know these things. I have seen fraud from African men with the marriage thing in my own family so many times.

to anonymous who said be watchful and carefule
by: Neesha in response

I am sooooo very sorry this happened to you. Some people are just bad people. It doesn't matter where they are from....Nigeria or wherever. I have met my share of evil and wicked men here in America. It's a shame but I hope you don't put all Nigerian men in the same bucket. They are not all the same even by just saying Nigerian...there are Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba, Edo...etc..I have found all are different in their own way..Not necessarily good or bad...just different.

to anonymous who said be watchful and carefule
by: Neesha in response

I am sooooo very sorry this happened to you. Some people are just bad people. It doesn't matter where they are from....Nigeria or wherever. I have met my share of evil and wicked men here in America. It's a shame but I hope you don't put all Nigerian men in the same bucket. They are not all the same even by just saying Nigerian...there are Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba, Edo...etc..I have found all are different in their own way..Not necessarily good or bad...just different.

In response to Trish
by: Neesha

I am glad my original post is getting folks to talk about dating and love issues. I just wanted to say to you that your disease doesn't define who you are. I am very glad that you are recovering and I hope you don't try to take your life again. That evil man is not worth it. You have a life to live here on earth and make it count! Enjoy your life. Educate others and young children about your experiences. Hopefully you can do this without putting down an entire Nigerian culture. They are not all the same....I am still hanging in there with my love. I still love him much! He loves me too.

in response to Anonymous married for 25 years
by: Neesha

Hello, This is a great story. Obviously you both love each other. I hope to say that I have been married for 25 yrs soon...I am willing to understand his culture like he is mine. Actually he is at an advantage because he knows both well. He has lived here in American since he was a teenager. I am the one getting to know his culture. He is very sweet. He shows his love in a different kind of way. But when he shows me I know. He wants to protect me, ask how my health is, take me to important doctor visits, fixes things at my house or will try, haha!! He may not have time every single day to sit and hang out with me, but I'm okay with that now. He has proven that he loves me in his own way...not by giving me flowers etc...but by being there for me when I need him..I know the culture pretty well. I am sure there are things I will never understand completely but I will have to accept if I love him and want to be with him. thanks for responding..

in response to Vira and her responder
by: Neesha

Wow, I am glad you found true love. If it wasn't meant to be it won't be. I don't believe we can live in fear, it's not good! Enjoy the love you have for each other. All Nigerians are not wicked and they don't all hate Black americans! I refuse to believe this. There are some, maybe many but not ALL Nigerians. That's a huge sterotype. I don't raise my children to think this way. Everyone is a separate soul and individual. Everyone deserves a chance to prove themselves...everyone! For the person that responded so negatively, I am sorry that you are surrounded by such evil and wicked people. It sound like you are not the same...stay that way please don't spread evil and hate

response to anonymous Felix
by: Neesha

You are rude. 1- none of your business 2-none of your business 3- I am divorced, what makes you think I wasn't married? I'll be sure to send you an invitation to our wedding.. Not all Igbo men are like yourself. I definitely wouldn't want you with that attitude. I am no slump, I look great for my age and I'm a nurse handling my business. And he loves my Nigerian meals...thank you

to neesha
by: anon

I very sorry but he(felix) the commenter before you respond is saying you the truth. This is how we Igbo men really do feel about the black americas woman. My family disown me if I was marry a black american. No matter her education or cooking. In our culture it is taught to us at very young age to marry within our own tribe. Our family honor the Igbo woman in our culture. This man not reveal his true self as of yet and may be he just using you, maybe for sex. Right now you no see it, because love is blind. Atleast when he does reveal himself, you can say people here told you before hand in this forum.

My opinion
by: LaMonica

Hi, I am new to this forum, found this headline by doing a google search. What does being a nurse and being able to cook have anything to do with keeping a Nigerian Igbo man? My first cousin was married 4 years to an Igbo man. I just learned of her split a week ago, after hearing some family members talking about it. She just moved back in with her parents 4 weeks ago. She is from Texas and husband is Igbo Nigerian man. She is an occupational therapist and her husband a RN. They met in college here, she graduated a year before him. She found out recently he was cheating on her with a woman from his country. A woman that just flew here in the beginning of last year, that is attending the local college here. My cousin's in laws are also here in the states. The in laws were busy trying to hook the husband up with women from their country behind my cousin's back. MY cousin is a smart, beautiful, intelligent, clean soft spoken woman. A christian young lady who comes from a church going family. She can cook her butt off too.... spent her times cooking, doing things for the husband. I was shocked to learn of her divorce because she seemed so happy and so did he! You never know what goes on behind closed doors. It shocked our family. I feel sorry for her because she is quiet and never bother anybody, have no kids and is approaching 30. She is not even quite out of her twenties yet. She is 29. Now she has to start over, back living home with her mom and dad. The family was crazy about him, he attended church with her also, no signs of any troubles. I hope your man is not that way, but from doing a research on their culture, i learned online and from word of mouth this is not as shocking as I thought. This seems to be very common.

where i left off
by: LaMonica

I know my relative can make it on her own, what I meant by feeling sorry for her, I mean I feel sorry for what she is going through. I should have rephrased that. She makes a lot of money, but from what I know she left her job to move an hour away back in with her parents. I believe going through things like that can take a toll on a person physically, mentally, and emotionally. As of yet from what I know she is currently just at home, in the house not going anywhere after this recent split. I would advise Neesha to really pray about your situation before even considering marriage. I know our African American men can be bad too, but i never see them stoop that low by using American women marrying them and inviting them into their family, flying them cross country to meet family then dropping them like hot cakes. Wow! I don't know what type of black American men you have met, but surely there are some good ones out there. What places have you looked? I'm starting to feel sorry for you, heck I feel sorry for all black American women. Seems you are just not valued enough. I'm black myself but half white. I don't experience this.

I am African American woman, dating Igbo man
by: Fran6D

No two persons are the same irrespective of their tribe race or background.
I am an Igbo man in Nigeria. I have been married for nearly thirty years to an Igbo woman like me. But she is so domineering, minds her self and her family before marriage, and has negative influence on our three children.
This is one of her many disagreeable ways which she craftily covered from me and opened them gradually over the time.
I have only a married sister, so no extended family attachment. When I think back now, I only see deceits and lies. I will have to quite the marriage to be able to continue with life or die before my time. I may only marry again if I can regain confidence in women, though not from Igbo or Nigeria.
You see, Who the cap fits, let them wear it. No stereotypes. Situations and conscientious considerations are just the solution to life. I am happy for your future happiness God willing.

in response to Fran6D and Lamonica
by: Neesha

Thank you for sharing. I have always said that not all Nigerian men are the same. You have to even break it down to their tribe, where they grew up, here in the states or in Nigeria,How old they are, etc etc...I know a they have bad name because of the few deceitful men out there. They have made a bad name for the whole Nigerian country of men. I am sorry for what happened to your family Lamonica. Very sad. You only read the response. You mentioned what difference does it make that I am a nurse and that I cook nigerian meals. I was merely painting a picture of who I am. You would have to go back to my original post and not just base your comment off my last post. I am not desperate, I am in shape, fashionable, I look great for my age, I am loving and giving. I believe I'm in a better place now with understanding him. He shows his love differently. by being there for me when I need him and when we are together he gives me his undivided attention. Unless he gets a call from his parents, lol! He is already a US citizen, he wants to make sure it will last with me. I have a strong american culture of being an independent woman. Thinking that I don't "need" anyone. Well I don't need him but I "want" him. I only "need" my heavenly father. Fran6D I hope you find relief soon. You too will be happier one day... My original post was early 2012, so I have come a long way...He's been in my life for over 3 yrs now. I have met his parents many times at church, not introduced as girlfriend yet, but they are not stupid, they know something is up. They give me that look...lol

to Previous Commenter above me
by: LaMonica

I agree with you about mixing with your own kind, but do most Nigerians or African people look at all black americans as enemies? The reason I ask this is because I noticed many Africans, not just Nigerians, but many Africans have a serious dislike for black americans. I had a discussion about this with coworkers and family. We all came to this conclusion from witnessing the drama working with immigrants on the job and the negative situations some of my family members experienced. At least ten women in my family married African men. Nine of the women ended up divorced after the men became legal, but one couple has been married 27 years. Several men in my family are married to African women and have been 10 years plus going strong. Is this more of the men being dominant which is why the american women and african men don't last? I don't understand. I notice African women have a serious dislike for women that are not of their race. They even self hate by disliking their own, which is black americans. Your continent and it's people are fu*ked up individuals with an arrogant, high strung self righteous mentality. Nigerian men are no better than any other men and will cheat on your a$$ too. I know this because even the men on my job that have african wives, try to fu*k the caucasion women on my job. These men are Registered Nurses and supposedly educated.

Help!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

Can anyone tell me about the Bini's tribe. What
are they like or who they are. Please I need info.
Thanks

some words of advice from an Igbo man
by: Anonymous

1. It is very difficult if not amost impossible for an Igbo man to marry at age 27.The average minimum age is 30 or 31.
2. an Igbo man naturally will never submit to a woman or allow equality with his wife,e if he is doing it now, HE IS FAKE.
3. As per ur kids, if his mother or sisters or female relatives don't accept u, u will hav trouble so work on this.
4. If u are independent then change that and begin to depend on him for guidance and decisions or else, he will leave u one day. love doesn't cover that.
5. u must learn how to always cook for him, do all the house chores without complainin if u want him to marry u eventually or else he will leave one day.
6. ur kids are already a minus for u so u hav to be 100% submissive bcos igbos scarcely marry a divorced woman talkless of a woman wit kids
7. igbos live in extended families so if u are serious about marriage u MUST GET TO KNOW HIS FAMILY CIRCLE AND BLEND URSELF IN or when the chips are down, they wont be there for u. In Igbo community in Nigeria, before a man breaks up with his wife, he must hav the consent of his parents and siblings, if his parents are no longer there, his uncles etc. A man cant just leave a marriage, if they refuse and do not support him, he is glued to the woman

feelings
by: task

Im a similar situation with the exception that our relationship is very new. It haa only been a few months. Im divorced with two children. I am 34 and he is 23. I tried over and over to cut this off after finding out his age but he continues to pursuit me. I am a black American. I ask alot of questions about his culture. Family is very important to me and i dont want him to be put in a situation were he has to choose. I dont want me in my children to be hurt either. He nor i have really evolved our family members. He will not take no for a answer but deep in my heart i know this will be a journey. I have all the comments to you both negative and postive and a pray it work out. But for me the relationship is fresh and it was good to hear someone's in the same boat. Should i let it go. I know it will hurt him....?

Naija Men and African American Women
by: Anonymous

I am an African American woman who haa been with her Naija Man(Igbo) for 25 years. I would not have any other way. True it has not always been easy, but it is workable.I was a divorcee with one child. I have been to Naijaland and I love the family. I think they feel the same way about me, give or take a few LOL. It is always me who reminds my husband to communicate and assist financially those family members who are need( only if it is warranted) Many Nigerian women do not like American women because of negative social media and lack of opportunity for social interaction. But woman are the same all over the world with the same challenges. once you get to know one another, you can have a great relationship and learn a lot from your Naija sister. Actually, the one thing I appreciate about Naija ladies is their candidness, and practical approach towards life. If you are in a relationship with a Nigerian man, love him, let him take the lead especially publicly,accept and love his family,learn to cook and spoil him a little for a start. Good luck and God Bless

response to Task
by: Neesha

Omg! This is wonderful. I believe in love and I believe love can be deeper than culture. I love the Igbo man I am seeing and he loves me too! Nobody can convince me otherwise. He has been there many times for me when I needed him. You follow your heart and if your heart is saying you love him and he loves you... then go for it and put 100 percent of your love into him! I refuse to believe he has used me for sex for almist 4 yrs! You can find that anywhere! And he is very handsome..he can have whoever he wants but he wants me and I want him. Age difference is just a number. If both of you are looking past your age difference then no one else should care either. I wish you well. Always be truthful with him and let him be the boss

African American woman, dating Ibo or any African man
by: Anonymous

This is not working for the African man at all . Because of the children,they consider a free zone girl. A pure African man do not like trailer

Just run NOW
by: Noe

My Dear Sister i was in a very similar situation , the only difference is i meet his family and helped them so much that i lost myself one faithful day after so many trips and so much hard work he beat me to a pulp after i traveled to see him after I had a minor heart surgery , he never stop cheating i ignored it but when he beat me it was the last time he saw me and that was the last time i helped him and his family . He was in my life for 3years i did so much thinking he will one day join me but he never wanted that he was just using me . My Sister just no this he will NEVER accept you and his family will not care for you because your not of his tribe or culture SAVE YOURSELF , don't waste anymore time me and my husband are also the age of you both he beat me up then sent me an email divorcing me. Think my Sister if its 2years and you did not meet his family you just think. All the best Noe

I agree
by: Anonymous

I agree with Noe. Sooner or later he will eventually leave you....if he haven't left yet. They (african men) usually are 99% never genuine with black American women. I see and hear the same story all the time from black American women where they were used for citizenship or if the guy ALREADY has citizenship. ...then the American woman is used for sex. Sorry but eventually it will come time when your eyes are opened. Right now you are probably thinking you're in true love.

Just an advice
by: Ayo

My sister, its true that we nigerians dont like marrying a woman with kids, some may wants to, some may wants to use you, but some may pull out because of family pressures as mentioned above,. Dont mind what anybody says because our fates are different, and i want you to know that no spell caster can count little handful of sand in your palm. So pay no attention to that because only the Lord God almighty can give you your heart desire. My question is " have you accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and saviour? I just wish to be offering you sincere advices that may make you successful in your quest for a happy home, God bless

Self Worthy First
by: Anonymous

I was introduced to a Nigerian man to date a year ago. The signs were there but being the woman I am I played it for what it was worth. Remind you it took over five years for me to give it a try. We talked for a week before meeting. He cooked me dinner on first date. Convo was good. The following weekend, I spent the night. He tried to go down on me! Big no. I don't know you. He thought it was an expectation of American women. Red flag #1... fast forward. He's a liar and will do anything to get me and I take that for what it's worth. I stopped seeing him for months and decided to visit. Told me all I wanted to hear, so he thought. For one I don't want a relationship, commitment. Just a relaxing get away. He sold a boat load of lies nd all I can do is loose major respect. I can say don't get caught in feelings or good time. They are sneaky, liars and slick. Love self first.

letting go or let it be
by: Anonymous

I fell in love with an Igbo man which is not suppose to happen. I know he is younger than me for 8 years gap (at first i thought only 5 years), and my marriage is not yet annulled. I told him i don't want anymore to go into a relationship where i know i will get hurt in the end. But in the end i fell in love. Just today we have a topic about marriage. He said in there culture a man can't married a woman with kids. I was speechless and hurt. He said he will still take of me. I replied for now my answer is i don't want to be the other woman. If your people tell you that you have to choose your wife, i will let you go. I'm so hurt cause i love him so much. I have never met a man like him. Sometimes i just wish i was born the same year. But i have to be thankful that i have met him. and once in my life i was happy with a faithful man.

For now he is focusing on his studies, taking up higher education and im focusing on my business. Im thinking if i continue and give my best,(cross my bridge when i get there) or stop while it's early.

Know your Value
by: Anonymous

Oh no! Run sister girl!
It doesn't matter what culture. A guy should introduce you to his family at least after that long if your are truly of value to him. Family is important!
I had a situation with one of my ex-boyfriends where he would always make excuses about me meeting his parents and introduce me as a lady friend. My family saw the signs and I ignored the red flags. He was really my first boyfriend at 23.
A year and a half had passed and something just wasn't right. He was like my best friend and he would tell me all kinds of stuff. (I'm in love with you foolishness but yet sometimes would be stand offish etc.) I prayed that God would open my eyes to see. I got a phone call from another women who said he had been with her for four years not even five minutes later from his phone. This guy and I melt four years ago and established a friendship. I had no clue!! God answers prayers. I was calm. She was calm and I made the choice to move on because I knew I deserved better. You deserve the best no matter what culture. I believe with any culture. Never lay down your values and take pride in yourself. Notice the red flags and love yourself enough to know when to walk away. I now have a friend who is Igbo and has been in the U.S since he was 6. But I still ask questions about his values etc. and that is what anyone I meet. I want to make sure that ours values match. I think long-term not short term.

Leave and Live
by: Anonymous

Neesha

He will not marry you! You need to leave him alone and leave your family out of this! Accept the fun you had and live! Trust me, live! Because that will become painful soon! I know!

frustrated
by: Anonymous

I posted earlier but can't view my post! What do I do? How am I gonna even see the response to this post? Lol

GOOD OR BAD?
by: Anonymous

I was dating a Nigerian man from 26 December 2013. I enjoyed the food and the different things I learned. The man himself was a strange one. I had just met him and he kinda "kidnapped" me...for 6 and a half weeks he would take me to his room and I would perform all wife duties. Cleaning, washing and intimacy. All but cooking, coz I apparently didn't know how to, after spending an eternity in my mother's house....Anyway, this went on and on. On Fridays, he would pick me up and I would abandon m family for long periods to be with him( not worth it...)He would most time lock me up in his room and leave me there with only a tv to watch. I was so sad...He was very unstable, to a point where I had to help him pay his rent or he would borrow money all the time from me...
He lived in 4 different places during the length of our relationship. For 11 months and hardly did we even kiss( don't know why nigerian men hate kissing, let alone being completely devoid of any passion or emotion) Then, he moved again and I moved out my parents home to my sister. She lived a distance from where he lived, so travel was a problem. I visited him once out of my own, then he started acting strangely. No more calls, nothing and if I would call, he never answered, but that used to happen quite frequently. Then I was suspicious. I once again took a taxi to him, without mentioning that I'm going to visit him. Upon my arrival at his place, I noticed that his car was not there and I assumed he went out. Someone let me into the yard, coz where he lived was like a compound. Anyway, I went and stood outside his door and I heard activity inside, the tv was on. I knocked and he responded. I knocked three times and he hesitantly open the door and kept me there. I was baffled as to why he was acting so strangely. I asked him if I was disturbing him and he reluctantly let me in.
What met my eyes hurt so much. So deep. His room was filled with females clothes, her underwear in his cupboards. Then I knew why my babe was acting strangely after only 2 weeks of NOT seeing him, he went and got another wooman. Simply because I could not pay his rent. He got her to pay his...

So here is my story. I WILL NEVER DATE NIGERIAN MEN. They lie, use and emotionally abuse. No respect for South African woman. His name GODWIN ONLYESIS EJIMAGWA! I have forgiven him, yes, but will never forget what he done to me;-(

Sorry to the last poster
by: David

I am really sorry that you had to go through all of that, but I think you should share part of the blame too. When a Nigerian man expects you to pay his rent, he is using you! Real Nigerian men take care of the girlfriend/wife and expenses.

reply to Good or Bad comment
by: Anonymous

Hey dear I'm truly sorry to hear about your story, it seem that alot men from Nigeria are like that in nature to women from outside their culture. I'm recently going through a painful breakup from my past relationship with nigerian man who lived in Canada, I'm from the Caribbean but resided in Canada. I just feel so broken because I've been with this guy whilst he was going to school and though he didn't had much time to go out and get to know each other much, I still stayed with him out of love and trusted him though their was disapproval from my family and close friends to stay away from nigerian men because they are no good, I ignored them and tried to optimistic about being with him - I mean not everyone is the same and you categorize someone base on their nationality. I've been with this guy when he was at his lowest, there was days when he had to loan money from me, he recently started changing and all the similar changes you saw in your ex, I also noticed from him, one day I decided to go visit him at his apartment, he wasn't home, so I waited for him and when finally came-boy he wasn't happy to see me he was like why did I come and drop me back to my place. Anyways to make this short, I never gave up on him, it was during my lowest times when I needed reassurance and some comfort that he broke up with me over a text message. I just found that he got married a few months after leaving me,to another woman who seemed to be from his country. I'm still suffering from the fact that he left me and now married. It's one of the worst experience that I had to unfortunately go through in life. Right now I'm trying to recover from what I've through and just leave God to avenge for me. To Nesha,i say please be careful, the fact that you have your heart into it just scares me because I wouldn't want you to go through what I've been through -heartbroken. Just pray about it and try to be observant or run before it's too late.

GOOD OR BAD?
by: Anonymous

And now it's almost three weeks later. There has been apologies, forgiveness and many, many tears and heartache. Thank you for responding, I frlt so bad that it happened to me. Like a statistic. Our newspaper are full of the bad things these naiga guys do. ALL THE TIME...
I do sympathise with you my dear. I got all the warnings too. My family was upset, my friends sceptical and I faced all of the slander and defended him. I saw all the red flags, but I wanted to be ignorant and I just got what was coming to me:-( I can't imagine that when I get angery,because of neglect, that since when is it an excuse to cheat on someone. He told me it was because I drove him to it. LOL. Is that possible?

No! it's an excuse! My sentiments tell me that it's not the first time. I caught him before, with all the dirty sms's that he would text to other women, dissing me....

It's hurts terribly, know how much I gave of myself and all my time and yet the time I sacrificed to be with him, he used to run away, till the morning hours...

WHAT i DO FOR LOVE IS AMAZING...

He still keeps in touch. He apologised for cheating, but I won't go back. I will talk to him and still try to make sense of all this, but one thing I know is tht I'm worth much more..

Good or Bad (new2)
by: Anonymous

It's funny how your story is similar mines and thee others I read. I'm actually feeling less depress about everything I've been through with this loser, I know I am much worthy than how he treated me. What I don't understand is the lies he told me and how he made me to believe that he loved and I could trust with my life. I thought honesty was the best policy anyways we are indeed living in a very cruel world and I've learned my lesson with this dude. I pray I never fall in thing call 'love' with a nigerian man again, I had my share of hell with them. It's very unfortunate that's where I'm living that most of the men whose out looking to date are from Nigeria. I have nothing against the nigerian men but I can't trust my life with them as far as I've experienced. It's better to be real and not used people who have genuine heart. I am happy you also know your worth and has moved on. I wish my ex could apologize for the way he treated me as yours does but anyways life goes, there are good and bad in this world, we just have to keep praying and be observant in all we do.

Good or Bad (new2)
by: Anonymous

It's funny how your story is similar mines and thee others I read. I'm actually feeling less depress about everything I've been through with this loser, I know I am much worthy than how he treated me. What I don't understand is the lies he told me and how he made me to believe that he loved and I could trust with my life. I thought honesty was the best policy anyways we are indeed living in a very cruel world and I've learned my lesson with this dude. I pray I never fall in thing call 'love' with a nigerian man again, I had my share of hell with them. It's very unfortunate that's where I'm living that most of the men whose out looking to date are from Nigeria. I have nothing against the nigerian men but I can't trust my life with them as far as I've experienced. It's better to be real and not used people who have genuine heart. I am happy you also know your worth and has moved on. I wish my ex could apologize for the way he treated me as yours does but anyways life goes, there are good and bad in this world, we just have to keep praying and be observant in all we do.

GOOD VERSUS BAD
by: Anonymous

OK. I keep thinking about forgiveness. Is it for the weak-coz that I forgave him, does it make me a weak person? Coz I still love him or I'm I stupid??? THEN I would think about God's forgiveness. When we ask for forgiveness, does He first think about it? whether He should or should not forgive me...Is the forgiveness immediate? I would like that! When Christ was crusified that day. Didn't He ask His Father to forgive them for they do not know what they do? So, that Christ came into this world just to save me and forgive me. So many light years ago, He saw a picture of YOU and ME,crying, hurt and broken. He knows who's responsible. His watching to see if we will forgive, just as he did or do we hold it, deeply etched into our hearts, how much "they" hurt us. Do we keep remembering the pain?

Jesus is a healing balm for all who are hurt. Set yourself free! Jesus travelled so far to just forgive us. LETS DO THE SAME;-)

Good or Bad (new2)
by: Anonymous

Amen. Forgiveness is easy to do but the pain is always there no matter how I try to forget it, I'm on my way to recover completely from what I've been through and I look at it as lesson learned. Sometimes I wish there was some enforced to stop men like that who used and advantage of genuine women, it's just so unfair but thanks to God - I can say it well. It's good to forgive but pain will always be there and that makes it harder to trust fully.

GOOD VERSUS BAD
by: Anonymous

Exactly true! We should always remember that God will permit some things to happen in our lives,good or bad, coz He knows our imperfections and what we need to learn in order to perfect us to His perfect image. Time is the only healer. Some day, we'll look back and the pain will be no more;-) only memories.......and then we will see a bigger picture. All is in God's capable hands my dear. Ask God to heal us and help us learn. These guys will have to answer at some point in their lives to God, coz we all have to answer to only one God, YHWH, most Gracious and Merciful...amen

Forgive him, that one who tore you apart, made you cry. Forgive him. Jesus lost His life for us and yet we mourn over broken relationships...my boyfriend cheated on me,but he screwed himself...LOL over and over and over! He will NEVER find another me again. He brings me lunch and money, but CAN NOT look me in the eye. My love remains for him. Always, forever!

GOOD AND EVIL
by: Anonymous

Yes, I agree with you strong lady;-) we are blessed and highly favoured through our Lord Jesus Christ. Too blessed to be stressed. Continue in love and may this bring us yet closer to Jesus. He is the One we waiting for. Comforter and healer of all who are wary and heavy laden. I praise His holy name! Stay strong in Jesus. I'm happy that you seem positive. As for Nigerian men/creatures, I think that it's not only them, lets not stereotype.
Most men are that way. Users, abusers, sex lovers. TRUE.FACT. Women and be that way too. Abusers, users and sex lovers. That equals it out.
It's just a pity that this happens to the best of us my dear...We are stronger now than before.

Truth
by: Anonymous

Was he married before? No, I guess. He is under great socio-cultural challenge to package you and present you to his family for acceptance. This family approval is key to understanding marriage from the Nigerian perspective. Sorry about my blunt language. I speak as a Nigerian man.
I am afraid he is not even trying...

Truth
by: Anonymous

Was he married before? No, I guess. He is under great socio-cultural challenge to package you and present you to his family for acceptance. This family approval is key to understanding marriage from the Nigerian perspective. Sorry about my blunt language. I speak as a Nigerian man.
I am afraid he is not even trying...

Truth
by: Anonymous

Was he married before? No, I guess. He is under great socio-cultural challenge to package you and present you to his family for acceptance. This family approval is key to understanding marriage from the Nigerian perspective. Sorry about my blunt language. I speak as a Nigerian man.
I am afraid he is not even trying...

Truth
by: Me

Was he married before? No, I guess. He is under great socio-cultural challenge to package you and present you to his family for acceptance. This family approval is key to understanding marriage from the Nigerian perspective. Sorry about my blunt language. I speak as a Nigerian man.
I am afraid he is not even trying...

God help me
by: Anonymous

I am a filipina married to a nigerian. We have one son and been married for 5 years. I dont Know nigerian culture before. Until now i read ur comments. Im very confuse now, ge is always cheating and didnt support our family needs. We stayed here in philippines, im the one supporting our family. He doesnt have work here but trying to sell something for a living. He went to nigeria, and one day i discovered that he married to his place to a nigerian also. Im very confuse now. I dont know if i will still wait for hs coming back. I love him so much

in a relationship with a nigerian man
by: prettycool

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by: Anonymous

Need a spell caster?then think of Dr Otis Darko he is real reliable and he does what he promise you.I know all this because he helped with my marriage problem.For security reason i will not live my name here but i can tell you all he did to help me.Me and my family live in the US military base here in America,my wife is a solider and i love it that she is and i support.But being a solider means she is half my wife and fully the U.S army.before her three tour we were so in love and we had a kid son who we both love him.It all changed after her two tour in Iraq and Afghanistan,i noticed the distance her second tour she stopped call at first i thought maybe she was part of an accident but i found out that she was OK in Afghanistan.She explained that she always on patrol.It got ugly on the third. I guess in the last two tours she found herself a new lover and then totally forgetting me and our boy.I can not say i did not notice because she always has to be some where instead of with me,coming up with some silly excuse not to be with me that is ( have sex ) and her entire behavior told me all i needed to know. i did my research and i had a hint that it was her squad lieutenant. I had know evidence so a could not take the matter to any body.It killed me to seeing this happen i was going suicidal.What hurt me the most was she going home knowing that i suspect she infidelity,she kept lying to me over and over again.The power of positive thinking helped me a lot.I thought that maybe i can find in the help on the internet with the people who had being in the same problem with him.I found a lot of ways but nor worked except Dr Otis Darko spell.At that time five month ago i was so confused that i could do anything to get my wife back so i contacted Dr Otis Darko with his email address i saw in some comment on the internet at otisdarko60@yahoo.com. I laid down my problem to him and told him the entire story and he even confirmed my hint was right, how he did i do not know but he was right because my wife told me later after the spell was made effective. Dr Otis Darko cast a spell on them both do not know what he did but it seem he made them both forget they ever crossed path romantically speaking like they never know each other expect there official relationship that is squad leader and solider.I owe my life to DR OTIS DARKO what he did saved my marriage.I can tell you this because i have tried and it worked for me.Your case also have a solution with Dr Otis Darko contact him with his email otisdarko60@yahoo.com.................... YOU CAN ALSO ADD US UP ON WHATSAPP USING THIS MOBILE NUMBER:+2348077526136

GETTING EX LOVER BACK NOW:otisdarko60@yahoo.com NEW
by: Anonymous

My Name is AZIBA OLUBOISE. I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i contact this man called otisdarko60@yahoo.com Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD'S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE'S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I'M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS... I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN'T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO... WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS; otisdarko60@yahoo.com ......HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT OUR OPPORTUNITY ... CONTACT THIS GREAT SPELL CASTER VIA EMAIL: otisdarko60@yahoo.com.

HOW MY MARRIAGE WAS SAVED:otisdarko60@yahoo.com NEW
by: Anonymous

My Name is Dan Anelos ..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i contact this man called otisdarko60@yahoo.com Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing and she told me she will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and my wife got pregnant a month later..we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid..This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him..he has helped many friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him..This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster have ever experienced in life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out..you can reach him here: otisdarko60@yahoo.com... CONTACT THIS GREAT AND POWERFUL SPELL CASTER CALLED OTIS DARKO ... HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS : otisdarko60@yahoo.com ... CONTACT HIM NOW AND BE FAST ABOUT IT SO HE CAN ALSO ATTEND TO YOU BECAUSE THE EARLIER YOU CONTACT HIM NOW THE BETTER FOR YOU TO GET QUICK SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS...

TESTIMONY ON EX LOVER:otisdarko60@yahoo.com NEW
by: Anonymous

ATTENTION EVERYONE,


BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK, ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT ANITA SPELL CRAFT AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HER MY LAST TRAIL.HE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $380 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $4800 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HIM A TRY SO I CALLED HIM AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $380 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS HE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PM THAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL DR OTIS DARKO SPELL THE NEXT DAY THANKING HIM FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HIM AND THANK HIM AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT DR OTIS DARKO SPELL HOME NOW: otisdarko60@yahoo.com

HOW I GET FREE FROM HERPES AFTER 8 DAYS NEW
by: Anonymous

HOW I GET FREE FROM HERPES AFTER 8 DAYS

My name is ALAN PRATTE,i am from USA.I want to share my testimony on how i get cure of my HERPES GENITAL with the help of Doctor OTIS DARKO, I have being suffering for this disease for a very long time now and I have try several means to get rid of it, but there was no solution to it because my doctor told me at the hospital that herpes has no cure.I have being scam by several people on internet who claim that they have herpes cure.but I never gave up, until I saw a post,posted by JACK WILSON. when I saw her testimony I was happy because she make a statement that the herbal doctor medicine is for free. after reading the testimony,so I collect the herbal doctor email and mail him about my herpes that I need cure and 4 hours later he replied my mail, and told me to send him my details about my self and after that he told me that his herbal medicine is free and that the only thing that I need to do, is to provide money that he will use in getting the herbal medicine preparation done and I told him that he should give me 2/3 days to get the money amd we keep on sending mail to each other and using phone calls to communicate and three days later I got the money that he request for in getting the items and I send it to him he email me that he has purchase the items that he is about to prepare the herbal medicine and after the preparation he send the herbal medicine to me via fedex and he also give me the guide line on how to use the herbal medicine and after using it for 8 days as he told me, then I went for medical checkup at the hospital and I was so surprise that the doctor congratulate me that am now herpes negative and I was so happy because at last am free from herpes and also I want to thank WILSON for using doctor OTIS DARKO to cure my herpes and another testimony is that two of my friend who also have herpes that contacted doctor OTIS DARKO for their own cure have also been cured from herpes and now they are also herpes NEGATIVE like me and if you have herpes or any other disease and you want to get rid of it, DR OTIS DARKO is the best DR to cure it. If you want to be sharing the same testimony that am sharing with other who has being cure by him kindly contact doctor OTIS DARKO via this email: otisdarko60@yahoo.com .... DR OTIS GOT ALL CURE AND REMEDY TO ALL KIND OF SICKNESS YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN SUFFER FROM AND ALSO SPECIALISES IN THE FOLLOWING:

(1) If you want your ex-back.
(2) If you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance.
(9) Herbal care
(10) if you are unable to satisfy your wife sex desire due to low err action.
(11) If your menstruation refuse to come out the day it suppose or over flows.
(12) If your work refuse to pay you, people owing you.
(13) Solve a land issue and get it back.
(14) Did your family Denny you of your right?
(15) Do you have a low sperm count?
(16) Are you contesting for any political position in your country?
(17) Case solves E.T.C

You are free to contact him at ( otisdarko60@yahoo.com ) ..... CONTACT HIM NOW FOR ALL ANSWERS TO ANY KIND OF PROBLEMS: otisdarko60@yahoo.com

EX LOVER IS BACK TO ME NOW NEW
by: Anonymous

My Name is KPELELIO.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to otisdarko60@yahoo.com I cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck: otisdarko60@yahoo.com. ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: otisdarko60@yahoo.com

ALL SOLUTION HERE:otisdarko60@yahoo.com NEW
by: Anonymous

ATTENTION TO THE WHOLE WORLD:

Hello and blessed are you who found me. My name is DR OTIS DARKO ( otisdarko60@yahoo.com ), and am here to help you change and transform your life in the most positive way possible. I use the power of white, black craft and Wicca and voodoo spell casting to help people just like you they get the love they want and the money they deserve.


My love spell offer amazing and quick results. Do you want to find your soulmate? Do you want to reunite with a past lover and make him or her love you again? Do you need to bind a troublemaker from causing problems in your relationship? With my spell casting service, I can cast a love spell on your behalf that will help all of your wishes and dreams come true. I also do other custom spells, such as money spells, job spells, friendship spells, and good luck spells.


You may have already tried the power of spells and prayers to get what you want. Although it is true that everyone has the ability to cast spells and perform magic, spell casting is like a muscle. Everyone has this 'muscle' but the more you use it, the stronger it gets, and the more things you are able to do with it. If you are not an experienced spell caster, your spell may not be as strong, and the results not as quick as you may desire. GET YOUR PROBLEMS SOLVE HERE AND BE FREE!!

Hello to people that want to be Great,

Note: This Spell casting do not have any effect on any one, But just to get your problem solve ok.
Get your problem solve in master...You can get the bellow problems solve here.

1. Bring back lost lover, even if lost for a long
time
2. Remove bad spells from homes, business
& customer attraction etc.
3. Get promotion you have desired for a long time at work or in your career.
4. Remove the black pot that keeps on taking your money away
5. Find out why you are not progressing in life and the solution
6. Eliminate in family fights
7. Ensure excellent school grades even for children with mental disabilities
8. Stop your marriage or relationship from
breaking apart
9. I destroy and can send back the Nikolos if requested
10. We heal barrenness in women and disturbing menstruation
11. Get you marriage to the lover of your choice
12. Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage
13. Ensure success in work and business
14. Mental illness & bewitched
15. Can’t sleep at night or walking at night
16. Recover stolen property and
whereabouts of people that hurt you.
17. Bring supernatural luck into your home
18. Extreme protection for those doing dangerous jobs like security guards, Bank manager, cash transporters, etc

I have over 20 years of spell casting experience, and i have successfully cast spells to help hundreds of people improve their love life, financial situation, and happiness.

I can help you, and I want to help you. Read through my words and CONTACT ME VIA: otisdarko60@yahoo.com AS MY POWERS ARE SO STRONG AND VERY EFFECTIVE AND HAS NO BAD EFFECT INSTEAD IT HAVE A VERY GOOD RESULT AFTER CASTING THE SPELL. CONTACT HIM AGAIN ON HIS EMAIL ADDRESS: otisdarko60@yahoo.com

HOW I GOT MY EX LOVER BACK TO ME TODAY NEW
by: Anonymous

Midred Jackson Says

Am giving this testimony cos am happy

My name is Midred Jackson from Michigan I never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once. when i went to Africa in June 28th 2013 this year on a business summit. i ment a man called DR OTIS DARKO. He is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love’s gone,misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you, bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job.i’m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 3 weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 2 years… i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job. so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him..at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try. and in 6 days when i returned to taxes, my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married..i didn’t believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do… well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid,and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better. in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help, email address: otisdarko60@yahoo.com

GREAT OTIS DARKO I thank you very much thank you in 1000000 times.. if not you I would have been losted and wasted thank you. Email Him Through his email address... otisdarko60@yahoo.com

please make sure you contact him for any financial difficulties okay..

What a powerful man such as DR OTIS DARKO.. he is so much powerful..\\ email him for any difficulties.. otisdarko60@yahoo.com................... YOU CAN ALSO ADD US UP ON WHATSAPP USING THIS MOBILE NUMBER:+2348077526136

DR AKERECO DO A WONDERFUL THING HE HELP ME BRING MY BACK MY EX WIFE DR YOU AMAZE ME THANKS NEW
by: Jessica Tom

My name is Jessica Tom, From Germany.. My world and my life is back!!! After one year of Broken relationship, my boyfriend left me for know reason. I felt like my life was about to end i almost committed suicide, i was emotionally down for a very long time. (Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Akereco), which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet,I came across allot of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and so on. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Jennifer,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than two days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped Dr Akereco e-mail address. After reading all these,I decided to give it a try.I contacted him via email drakerecospellcaster@gmail.com and explained my problem to him, he told me In 48hours my husband will came back to me. to my surprise he come to my house asking me to forgive him We solved our issues, and we are even happier than before.. You can add him on his Facebook (salaam shafi) Dr Akereco, is really a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man... If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster to solve all your problems for you. His legit website is drakerecospellcaster.webs.com Angain his email address is drakerecospellcaster@gmail.com

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